When we get sexy with ourselves and others in truly honest ways, that sexiness lights up every corner of our lives. I believe that when we connect to our bodies and our own desires, we create new pathways to connection with each other. When we choose to take up space in the body we’re in, when we show up in the world with clear boundaries and desires without shame, we begin to break down the systems and beliefs that bind us. I believe in the spark that charges us up.

I’ve taught dance, calculus, and philosophy. I’ve managed a farmers’ market, held elected office, written three cookbooks, and worked as a travel journalist. For nearly a decade, I’ve worked in marketing for a small, exquisitely beautiful and family-run market. As long as I’ve been an adult, I’ve been both a wife and a mother, and I spent the first few decades of adulthood trying to become the best caregiver and people pleaser I could be. But in the process, I lost touch with the ability to desire anything other than a clean kitchen, healthy kids, and enough money to pay my mortgage. I felt like I had lost something, but I didn’t even have the words for it.

And then just like that, my spark returned.

Well not just like that, of course. Like any shift, it took some work, support from others, and some very helpful nudges from the world around me. But when I created the space to tune into my body to discern what I was really into, I started to find the words and actions that could help me get more of it. And it wasn’t just about sex–far from it. The simple act of being honest about who I am and what I’m into has opened me up and brought me closer to the me I want to be. Life is sexier and more filled with pleasure, and that pleasure brings me into alignment in my relationships, my work, and my interactions with my community. That pursuit of honest pleasure is the process I want to bring to others.

I’m a Somatica®-trained sex and relationship coach on the path to certification. Because I’m in training, I’m able to offer sessions at a reduced rate right now. I work with couples and individual adults across all ages, orientations, bodies, abilities, and genders, in person or online. If you want to reconnect with your spark, if you’re wanting to have more sex that you love, or if you’re just trying to figure out what you’re into, I’d love to meet with you. Set up a free call here.